This is one of the clearer explanations I’ve seen for why capable people hit that quiet exhaustion wall. The Child–Manager loop makes sense — you can feel it once it’s named.
What stands out is the shift from “something is wrong with me” to “this is structural.” That alone takes a lot of unnecessary weight off people who are actually doing their best to carry things well.
Also appreciated the point that more effort doesn’t solve it when the system itself is closed. Most people double down right there and just burn more energy.
There’s something solid underneath this — especially the idea that this isn’t failure, it’s a threshold.
The question "Does anybody know what they are doing?".....so spot on. But I think., especially in this time, that it is uttered both by the child and the manager.
This is one of the clearer explanations I’ve seen for why capable people hit that quiet exhaustion wall. The Child–Manager loop makes sense — you can feel it once it’s named.
What stands out is the shift from “something is wrong with me” to “this is structural.” That alone takes a lot of unnecessary weight off people who are actually doing their best to carry things well.
Also appreciated the point that more effort doesn’t solve it when the system itself is closed. Most people double down right there and just burn more energy.
There’s something solid underneath this — especially the idea that this isn’t failure, it’s a threshold.
—Lone Wolf
Cheers, RIB. I’ve lived this loop unconsciously for a long time…such a relief to move on.
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I perceive the new child is the emergence of the Murtured capacity to be born of innocence once Again in its full capacity to hold unconditional love!
The question "Does anybody know what they are doing?".....so spot on. But I think., especially in this time, that it is uttered both by the child and the manager.
Great analysis. Thank you Colin
I agree with you, Celia…and that’s the hope is to point out that neither of them are going to get us where we belong.